Interested in a FUN way to strengthen your relationships, including your marriage?
Through an extensive review of studies on productivity and relationships, blogger Eric Barker discovered a common factor. He realized that this one thing strengthened friendships, boosted success in the work place, increased happiness, and strengthened motivation:
In summarizing his findings, Eric made this unexpected suggestion:
Want a better relationship? Spend more time celebrating the good things.
He explained further: “Studies show divorce isn’t usually caused by an increase in problems. It’s often caused by a decrease in positive feelings.”
Here is how Eric summed it up:
Stop trying to fix the bad and focus on relishing the good. That’s what makes marriages last.
Of course, there may be things in your marriage that must be addressed and boundaries that must be maintained. However, we can easily become consumed with problems and fixated on the negative.
We forget the core of marriage: delighting in one another.
God delights in us, and He longs for us to delight in Him. When we forget to center our lives on enjoying Christ and savoring Him, we become spiritually dry. The Christian life becomes one of effort and plodding duty. But when we relish the generous goodness and lavish love of Christ, we thrive. We gain spiritual radiance.
Our marriages are similar. When our relationships are all effort and duty, we become unbalanced, and we snuff out the sparks of joy.
I love seeing how much God values celebration! The words “celebrate” and “celebration” appear in the NLT version of the Bible 131 times. God created many amazing feasts for His people to celebrate every year, and He is preparing for us the most incredible celebration of all, “the wedding feast of the Lamb” (Revelation 19:7, NLT).
You weren’t about to say that you have nothing to celebrate, were you? That’s good because
you can always celebrate!
All you need is a grateful heart. Add a balloon, or a bit of confetti, a handmade sign, a plate of cookies, or even a single candle in a muffin, and—viola!—you have a celebration.
Celebrate the good things you have received from God. Celebrate daily victories, little joys, small steps, warm smiles.
Relish life with the spouse you love
Each and every day … (Ecclesiastes 9:9, MSG).
Celebrate the big stuff, and celebrate the little things, too. Celebrate with gratitude to God, who is the Giver of every good thing.
Here’s something to celebrate: Pentecost is coming up soon! This festive holy-day will be on May 15 this year. Be sure to take a minute–or a meal–to celebrate the awesome gift of God’s Spirit to His people.
My family and I have enjoyed celebrating God’s good gifts to us through simple adaptations of the Biblical feasts. To share these activities with others, I recently wrote a book entitled, Simple Celebrations: Practical Ways to Enjoy the Biblical Feasts.
This book provides step-by- step instructions for celebrating God’s goodness through the symbolism and festivity of the Biblical feasts. Simple Celebrations explains how to enjoy Passover, Pentecost, the Feast of Tabernacles, Hanukkah, and Purim in meaningful ways. The book is available on Amazon in both paperback and Kindle formats.
So … what you are celebrating?
Blessings to you,
Great advice for any relationship! Thanks for sharing 🙂
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