Forget your marriage.
Forget working on your checklist for the ideal marriage.
Instead, focus on your spouse.
Trying to achieve a certain kind of marriage can make us crazy. It can be very discouraging. But a lot of that hard work is misdirected energy. We are actually off-target when we focus on the marriage itself.
We have been called to love someone, not to create a particular kind of marriage. We do not take our marriages with us to heaven. We take people with us to heaven.
Focus on loving your spouse, serving according to his or her needs as God directs. As a result, your marriage will be blessed. But turning your eyes away from your spouse to focus on the marriage itself will bring frustration and disappointment.
We thrive when we stop trying to manipulate our marriages, and instead focus on valuing our spouses. They are the real treasures. Your husband is the real treasure. Your wife is the real treasure.
Forget your marriage. Instead, focus on your ministry as a spouse.
When we stand before God, we will not be evaluated by the type of marriages we had. We will be accountable, however, for the way we ministered as wives or as husbands.
We torment ourselves with continually measuring our marriages against our version of the perfect marriage. We can live free from that! Instead of evaluating our marriages, we want to evaluate ourselves as wives or husbands. Let’s pray for insight into the needs of our covenant partners, and then let’s ask God to enable us to minister to those needs according to His wisdom and purposes.
FORGET THIS: FOCUS ON THIS:
changing your spouse accepting your spouse
evaluating your marriage evaluating yourself as a spouse
controlling your spouse serving your spouse
judging, which is claiming examining the motives of your heart
to know someone else’s motives
pursuing your own agenda pursuing Christ, the One who fully satisfies
(This material is adapted from Radiance: Secrets to Thriving in Marriage.)
Blessings to you,
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Precious Tami, Â Â Â What a great reminder!Â I was so wiped out & busy Thursday after returning from out West Wednesday night,Â I totally missed prayer time & was so bummed!Â I will miss this week due to swim lessons & next week for our Holiness family camp meeting….so glad you record the calls & make available for us.Â You’re teaching still heavily influences my life & I continue to pass along your encouraging/convicting Biblical Truths to many of my dear friends…..especially the 4 ladies you so faithfully include each week when we pray…Brooke, Selena, Jaci & Georgia.Â Look forward to joining you again in 3 weeksÂ Thank you so much for your persevering efforts in nurturing us in His Word! Love & prayers, Melissa
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Thank you for your comment, Melissa. I will reply further by email. ❤