Here is a book that I would recommend even if it were nothing more than its title: Grace Filled Marriage. But now that I have finished reading it, I am glad to say that I can recommend not only the title but also the entire book!
If “grace” refers to all the gifts springing from goodness and love—gifts such as acceptance and forgiveness and kindness—then grace is exactly what every marriage needs. In this hope-filled, easy-to-read book, author Tim Kimmel explains what it means to fill a marriage with grace.
Here is a collection of quotes from the book:
[M]ost marriage don’t struggle from a lack of love; they struggle from a lack of grace. (3)
Love is the commitment of my will to your needs and best interests regardless of the cost. (65)
[We can be spouses who believe that] divine grace [is] bigger than human disgrace. (113)
The primary feature of a heart of grace is that it lives to trust God. (118)
When you and your spouse are talking your way through tough issues, the goal of the discussion should always be unity, never victory. … If you consistently win arguments with your mate, guess what you get to sleep with every night? A loser! (161)
… God is glorified when we fight for our marriage, pray like mad, and trust him to deal with our unrepentant spouse. (161)
He’s a bigger God than any mess you or your spouse could have made. (172)
[Problems are] opportunities to enjoy a front-row seat to [God’s] sustaining grace. (186)
Love that comes from God is unique: … it’s delivered in abundant quantities … and graciously (as though it’s an honor on the part of the giver). (217)
True greatness is a passionate love for Jesus Christ that shows itself in an unquenchable love and concern for others. (218)
Jesus passionately met our needs. He wants his love pouring through us to passionately meet our spouse’s needs. (221)
There’s a lot resting on your mariage. Big stuff. God’s kingdom stuff. Even though you record your marriage in years, there’s an eternal dimension to what your union represents to God’s grander redemptive story. There are a lot of people whose lives will be impacted by how you live out your love—even people in generations way on down the line from you. (234)
Your marriage is worth all the grace that you can pour into it.
May God fill your life today with His generous, lavish grace.